Written by admin on 2009-04-09T03:29:46+0000">April 9, 2009 – 3:29 am
Most therapists will tell you that the prettiest patients can (and sometimes do) develop erotic transferences toward the ugliest therapists. It so happens that sexual attraction, at its deepest level, does not depend on physical appearance—which only serves as an initial spur. At bottom, sexuality depends on one’s capacity to give and receive gratitude and admiration with grace, to accept and share profound vulnerabilities without fleeing from them, and to tolerate anger and rage without giving in to the impulse to flee, appease, guilt-trip, or get revenge.
Having said that, let me add that this book is not a sexual panacea. If you use it according to instructions, and are willing to persevere even when it seems as if nothing is happening (even when, in the beginning, it seems silly, pointless, hopeless, upsetting, or disgusting to continue), then you may well achieve results. These are sure to be gradual, even though there may be an initial upsurge of fascination and joy—as happens in the beginning of most any endeavor.
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